They Tell You Not to Become Attached

Resisting attachment is like resisting water while swimming.

We are all part of the One, We are all One. That sounds pretty attached to me.

So ....Stop Fearing Attachment. Stop Resisting Attachment.

Look for your connection to everything. Relax in that connection. Find peace in that connection. Find joy in that connection.

Embrace attachment.

Realize you could never loose any person or any thing because everything is already attached to you and you attached to them.

Just don’t be attached to the form something is in , because everything here is in a state of constant movement, and therefore, in a state of constant change.

Don’t get attached to an idea, i.e., don’t hang onto any person, place, thing, situation, etc., thinking that that singular connection forms your identity.

Don’t think, "The parent of ____ is who I am. " Because as your child grows your identity will be threatened. Don’t think any one person could possibly more important to the One than another.

Don’t be attached to a role you play, or what you do well thinking that defines who you are. But DO play the role, DO enjoy doing things. You are a lot of things, you can play a lot of roles, you can do a lot of things, but no single activity or role is ‘who you are’.

Even forming attachments to significant others is quite acceptable as long as you remember this doesn’t mean you are actually more connected to that person (in reality) You are equally connected to All in reality. However, you can play any role you like while you are here and you can spend your time with anyone you choose. (You obviously can’t consciously or physically be with everyone. )

So if there is such a rule as ‘Don’t get attached’, it probably means don’t define yourself by something that changes or you will think you have stopped being who you are as that something evolves and therefore changes.

But DO enjoy your connection to everyone and everything because THAT is your real identity.

My favorite allegory of attachment is comparing the One to a human body and an individual to a part of that body.

A finger is definitely different than a knee. A finger can do things a knee can’t, but then a knee plays a role the finger couldn’t fill. If the finger were not aware of the entire body and his connection to it, the finger could look at the knee and find him to be quite strange and in comparison to his abilities, the knee would look like a bump on a log.

The mind is aware of the whole connection and the importance of all the various parts. If any one part of the body, were to be lost, the entire body would suffer. Oh, the other parts would learn to compensate, but it would never be as whole a body without every part functioning well.

If there was a standard that all parts tried to conform to, then most parts would always seem inferior. Yet if each part could understand his special and unique function and be happy to be unique enough to perform that function, then all parts would realize their value and how necessary they are.

If the finger still didn’t realize he was part of a greater whole, he might think he could exist separate from the body to which he was attached. Logically, he would then see his attachment to the hand as something that limited him. The more he tried to have experiences separate from the whole body, the more stress he would likely put on the entire body.

The bottom line is each of us is a finger or a knee or a single cell in the cosmos. Recognizing our attachment, our connection and how we fit in the big picture is exactly what gives our life meaning. Attachment isn't something to avoid. It is something to embrace.